Welcome Guys! May 30, 2009

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I just opened up my 1st and only blog website.  I’m so excited about this! Though, i’m having a difficulty setting it up. I think I’m ready for you guys to read my blogs and thoughts about life, love, relationship, parenting, friendship, food, places and all about my perspective in life.

I don’t even know if i’m doin this the right way…well, i don’t know and i dont care just as long as you guys can read my thoughts.

I am so glad that I came across this person who gave me an idea about wordpress.com and I am so excited about this and honestly that day I was eager to go home and start blogging.  In my other blog site my thoughts are limited to friends alone and I’m thinking the about possibilities that there may be, just may be guys out there who might wanna read my thoughts…

I do hope you enjoy reading my articles and of course enjoy it as well.  My site is open to all opinions and suggestions, which of course I would definitely appreciate.

Thanks!

God bless to you all!

KAYA NATIN ITO December 10, 2009

by

Various Filipino Recording Artists

Please watch the video. This is how we Filipinos value helping each other. In time of calamities and disasters there’s no rich or poor. We will find a way to raise funds and give back the blessing we received.

what’s the latest in local fashion? December 2, 2009

I rarely browse the internet for the local fashion scene. I’m not really a fashionista but i like checking the latest trend in fashion. For the year 2008-2009 I noticed something about the local get-up…everything’s getting skimpy. Meaning, most of the locals are sporting the shrinking clothes…I’m not sure when it all started but the trend started i guess it was way back the meteor garden era (try to check this out, the Chinese version with Dao Ming Si and Shan Cai…eheheh sharp mind huh?) when the F4 started the shrink-to-fit fashion. Especially the vintage shirt prints? Aah, it’s giving me the perfect gift ideas for my teen nephews and nieces. Well, going back to the main topic, since then everyone’s into the thin fit fashion plus the combination of vintage print. It’s been a while since it started to hit the shirt botiques, department stores, tiangge and finally it started the mainstream online business exchange sites. The thin fit fashion has been a hit for both young men and women. If it’s a shirt for men, the girls started to sport the skinny jeans, (FACT: skinny jeans doesn’t make you look skinny at all) to the Lindsay Lohan iconic black leggins (SHOUTOUT: to lindsay, honey too bad the modeling industry thing didn’t work out well with you) and the basic tunic top blouse…HELLO SISTA: tunics are slowly creeping out of the fashion scene. Now welcome the new local fashion wear…the skimpy skirts, blouse and shorts. I came across this site http://chicfits.multiply.com. The girls on the photos are modelling the newest fashion wear which are the mini skirts…out are the short shorts, in are the conventional mini skirts. They reinevented barbie doll clothes and put funkiness on it to make it more exciting to wear. Before, you wouldn’t want to wear ruffled clothes because teenagers back then are not that adventurous when it comes to clothing. Come on,  admit it, our culture is very conservative and we don’t want to wear provocative clothing before because we don’t wanna imply to the opposite gender right? Now teens are hungry for attention and they want to be noticed by means of their clothing. They feel the passion of fashion. The fact that dressing well gives you empowerment and popularity, right? Well, hell yeah!  I think these clothes designed by chicfits are modern and decent, who would’ve thought the ensemble would only cost Php550?? And the designs and fabric are exciting and fun to wear. You could actually mix and match the ruffled skirt with the basic black bustier cut tube blouse and you could instantly go from a party look to a casual office attire by simply putting on a bolero. See, fashion and budget does come together easily with the chicfits apparel. I strongly suggest that you try to view the girl’s website and see for yourself. I was able to get in touch with petite model designer MARJO and she’s very open to suggestions and she accept made to order designs. I’m planning to askthe young designer to sketch me a simple yet fun party dress for our office christmas party. Well, that’s it for now! I hope you enjoy reading my blogs and as always i am open for comments and suggestions for topics.

Ciao Bella!

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THE CHANGE IS ME November 25, 2009

THE CHANGE IS ME

 

“I always tell my volunteers that you are the change that you dream and I am the change that I dream. And collectively we are the change that this world needs to be.”

- Efren Penaflorida

CNN HEROES 2009 Awardee

 

These are the words of Mr. Efren Penaflorida, 28 years old, from Cavite Philippines. He just recently won the CNN Heroes 2009 and it was unprecedented for him. Among all of the nominees his pushcart classroom was selected. His work as a volunteer started in 1997 when he established Dynamic Teen Company.

Efren himself has experienced being bullied by those teen gangsters during his younger days in his own school and the slum area he grew up. But it didn’t stop him from striving harder. In fact it motivated him to think of a way to divert those lost teenagers from being hooked to gangsters and becoming drug addicts.

I watched a clip where he accepted the award from CNN Heroes 2009 awards. I was touched by his unselfish love for the Filipino children. He said that poverty is not a hindrance to education, and “They need education to be successful in life. It’s just giving them what others gave to me”.  He also said that 90% of the cash reward will go to the Dynamic Teen Company and 10% will go to the church. Nothing will go to him. He will not run for a political position and has no dreams for it. He wanted to be an educator in his own way. He is also planning to expand the areas where he can reach out and send his message to small children and help teenagers stay away from gangs and drus addiction. So far, his team has 10,000 volunteers and they have helped about 1,500 children in the slums with the pushcart classroom. They held classes in the most unusual places like cemeteries or like the yard in the garbage site. He has a benevolent heart.  He is concerned about the well being of the Filipino youth. It is not an excuse not to be educated if there is poverty. Poverty should not be an excuse to be a good person and definitely not an excuse to drug addiction and joining gangs. Efren has started a way to reach out to the most deprived children by teaching how to read and give them something that cannot be stolen from them when they grow up and that is education. He has found a way to unleash the potentials from teens instead of treating them as a problem. 

I hope that this will inspire all of us that helpling our children does not only end by giving them something, it will more noble to give them something they could keep for life and pass on to their children like how Efren started it with his pushcart classroom.

 

Note: picture from pinoyambisyoso.com/news/cnn-hero-week-filipino

HAIR ASIA MAGAZINE TRADE FAIR 2009 November 19, 2009

HAIR ASIA 2009 World Trade Center

 

We recently just opened a small salon this October 18, 2009, “Suklay & More” (salon for men and women). Basically, this is our new baby and it felt just like having a baby for the first time.

 

We attended the HAIR ASIA 2009 event held in the World Trade Center in Buendia-Macapagal area on November 17, 2009. This is my first time ever attending such fair and we are quite excited because we are looking forward to buy new salon equipments with big discounts. There were 6 of us in the group and I can say everyone had fun because you’ll see a lot about beauty and hair fashion.

 

We bought a lying position shampoo station. Normally, you could get it at more than Php 10,000++, we got ours at a good bargain. We bought hair spa treatment and hair reborn for only Php 500 for 3x 1500L. There were also hair rebonding system kits for as low as Php 500 and hair colouring system packages. This is a hair fair for small-scale salon entrepreneur to big scale salon businesses. The key to a good business is to earn profit and I say that to earn profit with the beauty business the key is quality versus quantity. So it means that since we are just starting we need to establish our relationship with our customers. We need to get their trust and by getting it we need them to come back. So how can we do this? We need quality products to use to our customers and quality products need not to be expensive. So we agreed to attend the fair and our aim is to get quality products to achieve high quality results.

 

I do not spend too much time fixing my hair. I do not put too much effort on beautifying myself either. I admit that I like looking at beautiful people and I admire how they actually do that. Being in this business made me understand that it makes up a persons self esteem and build up confidence. It makes me so proud whenever a customer feels very satisfied with the services they got from our small salon. Who says that beauty needs to be very expensive? But I agree that beauty takes time and the over all concept of it is being confident of your self. Beauty can be destructive as well. You can see a lot of them in the glossy magazine where celebrities are very good examples. If you want beauty then start from the very basic start with your inner self. Psyche your self. First, check if what you are doing is good for you or if it’s just pleasing others? Then proceed with your skin, a “base to a beautiful face is a good skin” as what I heard from a lady DJ on the radio. Of course don’t forget your crowning glory, your hair. Treat it as part of your body not just only as an extension. These are just 3 easy steps and you don’t need to put too much effort.

 

This is what I understood from attending the HAIR ASIA 2009. The essence of beauty is being beautiful inside and out. It doesn’t involve money all the time. Take each step carefully and you’ll see the result.

 

HERE ARE A FEW PICTURES THAT I TOOK INSIDE THE WORLD TRADE CENTER FOR HAIR ASIA 2009

 

Tickets were priced at Php100/head:

 

 

2010 Philippine Presidential Candidates November 9, 2009

Aah…As you wake up in the morning you can start to smell that the season is fast approaching. You can see it in all corners of the street, the music on the radio, the busy people checking their list and including TV commercials. And here comes…the PRESIDENTIABLES! Hey, for a while there maybe you thought that I am writing about Christmas, right? Wrong. I actually thought of writing about the fast approaching 2010 Presidential Election.

This is a blog right? So, this is my way of saying my opinion about it. At my age, (okay, I’ll say it, nah… maybe next time) I have experienced, Presidents Ferdinand Marcos, Corazon Aquino, Fidel Ramos, Joseph Estrada and Gloria Arroyo administrations. This 2010 election, I am not that excited about it because I am not satisfied with the candidates and their portfolios. I do not know much about politics, even though I took Political Science as my collegiate course, However I do care about how the country would do with the next president.

 The very first one to announce his intention is Senator Manny Villar. He is not from the traditional clan of politicians. He started small and became a businessman through construction and real estate properties. I think that he is in the hot seat right now, because his C-5 project is actually constructed on his own property. Government officials and critics are saying that he profited from the project and it was constructed with originally in a different route, the senate voted yes for an investigation accusing Sen. Manny Villar with double insertions of his personal interest, with the accuser as Sen. Jamby Madrigal. Check this out his running mate for Vice Presidential seat is Senator Loren Legarda. This is the rigamarole in politics every that pass there is this big surprise as to who is the next big candidate. She is primarily paired with Sen. Chiz Escudero but for some reason he backed out from the race leaving her alone with no running mate. Probably that’s the reason why she opted to run with Sen. Manny Villar.

Presidential aspirant no. 2 is Bro. Eddie Villanueva. He is a spiritual leader for Jesus is Lord Movement. A spiritual group representing 6 million voters, wherein they have a unified decision to vote who ever the leader endorses. This is going to be his second attempt for the presidential seat. It might mean that not all of his members are enough to let him win. Have I mentioned that he is also the founder of the JIL movement started with only 15 members in 1978? He has no experience as a Public servant but he is very experienced as a Pentecostal leader for his group. I don’t have too much say about his political experience because for me he really has none.

Let’s go to candidate no. 3. Gilbert “GIBO” Teodoro Jr., the presidential bet for LAKAS-Kampi-CMD. He came from a prominent family in Tarlac province and had a good education and a background for politics. Defense Secretary Gilberto Teodoro said that his main agenda if he will be elected as president, he is to push for changes in the 1987 Constitution through a Constitutional Convention. He actually won against former presidential candidate Bayani Fernando for endorsement from the said party list. Now, take this he just announced that his running mate for VP is no less than Eduardo “EDU” Manzano. Well, what do you know. This is getting more and more surprising, right? Who would’ve thought that there’s something cooking? First, ABS-CBN ended one of the best game show in morning cast GAME KNB. Then, Edu broke up with his long time girlfriend anchor woman Pinky Webb (daughter of former Sen. Freddie Webb). A couple of days after we were all surprised when Edu announced he is GIBO TEODORO’s running mate for 2010 election. This is pretty exciting huh? I just can’t tell if he is even on the list for private surveys.

 We have Chiz escudero next in line. He is a young aspirant for the presidential seat for the 2010 election. As of this writing he just turned 40yrs old. He is a very feisty and very vocal about his disappointments of the current administration. He was expected to represent the NPC party but to his seniors diapappointment he resigned from the party list and has decided to run independently.

 Next in line is Sen. Noynoy Aquino. I believe he is in lucky waters these days because his mom’s passing gave him popularity and a chance to reach out to the middle to the lower class Flipinos. Being part of the Aquino-Cojuanco clan makes him a part of the Upper-elite class of Filipnos. I don’t know what his agenda is as of this writing,  but from what I see from his TV ad is he is reviving his parents’ fight for a new government and a better democracy. Now, I tell yah this, for a moment i was stunned because Mar Roxas backed out from the presidential bet then he decided to be Noy’s running mate for the election. Noy’s always on the No. 1 spot for every conducted surveys for the 2010 election. This is Mar’s free ride to make sure for a vide presidential seat. Sen. Mar Roxas backed out from the race and gave way to his wife’s ex-boyfriend Noynoy Aquino. I’m sure he just realized that he can’t win against Noynoy’s gaining popularity.

The next presidential candidate that I know of, is of course, former president Joseph Estrada. I am quoting what he has said on tv that this is the last chapter of his life. He is giving it a shot one more time. I am just curious, do we really have to be a president just to serve our fellow countrymen. By the way his chosen running mate is Mayor Jejomar Binay of Makati city.

MMDA Chairman Bayani Fernando, has backed out as well from the race. I think it is a good move because with what happened to Marikina, he might as well concentrate on keeping his turf on the right track after Ondoy flooded the whole city. Maybe, he is a good leader in a smaller scale community instead of the whole country.

These are just a few of the candidates on my personal list. I don’t know if there are any other aspirants. Of course nuisance candidates is still part of my list, and I’ll try to look up if they are already surfacing. I’ll let you know about any other updates about our upcoming presidential election and for this is gonna be exciting.

To Say Chiz or not to Chiz November 6, 2009

I just got home from an early shift today and while on my way home I felt like I’m itching to write something about the potential Philippine Presidential candidates. As of this writing there isn’t a final list yet of the presidentiables. There are still rigmaroles in the aspiring candidates. In short, we have not decided yet if they will run or not.

I often have this discussion about politics with my daughter’s dad about who to vote this coming presidential election. Most of the time we would end up arguing about the one with the most potential, and he is an avid follower of Sen. Francis “CHIZ” Escudero.  At first the young senator is reluctant to announce what position is he vying for. He almost got me into voting him this coming election, until he made an odd decision. He is leaving the NATIONALIST PEOPLE’s  COALITION. Maybe he hasn’t decided if he would like to team up with Sen. Loren Legarda. I don’t much about the reason why he resigned from the party list but if in case he’ll win it will be the first time that a presidentiable would win without a party list. The big question is can he make it with a party list? A political party may come in handy when it comes to campaigning, laying out political agenda, and of course the most essential part of candidacy, funds…juicy right. I can tell that Sen. Chiz would like to prove every political party that you would not need to join a party to win a seat in the government. He is quite popular already because he has made a name for himself as a very well known critic of the GMA administration. We all know that the only thing permanent in politics is change. Friends can become enemies. Enemies later on become allies. This is not new in politics, and most of the time being seated in government has become a mean to earn a living. That’s why foreign governments are saying that the country is one of the most corrupt government in the world and we are an epitome of a mock government. I think this is what Sen. Chiz is trying to avoid. I understand that he is asking for more time to think hard about his decision to run for a higher position, but sometimes-perfect timing meets perfect situation. Like in Sen. Noynoy’s case. Forgive me, but I think he is a concrete example of someone who is in the perfect situation.  But let’s tackle that later. This time I am focusing on each and every candidate that I can see who has the most potential to run a lost country. Hopefully Chiz is just not only rich in words but I hope he is also rich in works. We have to admit that we are being ran by traditional politics and we have to escape from the reality that we are changing and we need to change also the way we are being governed. Sadly each and every one of them is corrupt…in their own big and little ways.

This 2010 Presidential Election we need not only to be wise in choosing a leader but we need to make sure that we won’t be a puppet. We need to gather up our senses and make sure that we will screen every candidate and not be blinded by the colorful posters, flyers, the celebrities that they drag to their campaign (what do celebrities know about the candidate that they are endorsing? Celebrities are just like us ordinary people; they don’t know much their bet as much as we do. Think about this celebrities are just hired spokesperson for the candidates and rare that they know each other very well. 

Here are some researched facts about Sen. Francis CHIZ Escudero:

BORN October10, 1969 to Represenative Salvador “Sonny” H. Escudero III (1st District of Sorsogon) and educator Evelina B. Guevara.

Escudero’s initiation into the political arena and into the art of addressing big crowds began in his teens in the ’80s, when he helped organize the local campaigns of his father. Escudero explained: “In 1984, I was part of the postering brigade in my dad’s campaign for assemblyman. In 1987, I handled the youth; in 1992, I handled the headquarters and arranged logistics. In 1995, I handled last minute operations, and in 1998, I was finally the candidate!”

He first indicated his inclination towards politics at age of 22 when he expressed interest to run for public office as municipal councilor of Sorsogon City. At age 25, he again indicated intent to run for the office of the mayor of Sorsogon City. But for both occasions, the family’s opinion, especially that of his father’s, that he finish his law studies first before beginning a political career, prevailed. In response to the wishes of his family, he finished his Law studies first before entering politics.

Escudero attended the University of the Philippines Integrated School for both his Elementary and Secondary Education, and graduated in 1981 and 1985 respectively. He earned his Bachelor’s Degree in Political Science at the University of the Philippines in Diliman, Quezon City in 1988 and Bachelors of Laws at the University of the Philippines College of Law in 1993. He received his Masters in International and Comparative Law at the Georgetown University Law Center in Washington D. C. in 1996.

2007-Present – Elected as one of the youngest Senators in the Philippine History

He primarily started running office at the Philippines house of Representative for the first district of Sorsogon. He is also a Minority Floor Leader of the 13th Congress on his 3rd and last term.

NOTE: He just resigned from the NPC party. Most of his senior mentors of the said party list are quite disappointed and upset when he publicly announced his separation from the party. Most of the senior mentors are saying that he is being ungrateful and the government to be a running mate for the administration Presidential bet Gilbert GIBO Teodoro is wooing him. This may seem odd but who knows? We can’t tell which is which until the first day of campaign is here.

This is just the first part of the Philippine Presidential saga. And believe me it’s a long process and we still have to evaluate 5 more candidates. Bye for now because I still have some things to think about. It’s just a couple of months away from the elections and we can’t afford to waste time doing nothing.

H.A.T.E. U November 5, 2009

BY

MARIAH CAREY

 

Once upon a time, we swore not to say goodbye
Something got a hold of us and we changed
Then you sat alone in pride
and I sat at home and cried
How’d our fairytale just end up this way

We went round for round til’ we knocked love out
We were laying in the ring, not making a sound
and if that’s a metaphor of you and I
why is it so hard to say goodbye

I can’t wait to hate you
Make you, pain like i do..
Still can’t shake you off..
I can’t wait to break through
these emotional changes..
seems like such a lost ’cause
I can’t wait to face you,
break you, down so low
there’s no place left to go..

 

I can’t wait to hate you..

love is, was a love phenomenon no one could explain
and i wish, i could press reset and feel that feeling again
i sit and press rewind and watch us everynight..
wanna pause it, but i can’t make it stay

we went round for round til’ we knocked love out
we were laying in the ring, not making a sound
and if that’s a metaphor of you and I
why is it so hard to say g’bye

I can’t wait to hate you
make you, pay like i do..
still can’t shake you off..
I can’t wait to break through
these emotional changes..
seems like such a lost ’cause
I can’t wait to face you,
break you, down so low
there’s no place left to go..

I can’t wait to hate you..
uh uh uh..

no need to call my phone cause I changed my number today
a matter fact, I think i’m moving away (away)
sorry, the frustrations got me feeling that way
and i just keep having one last thing to say
and i just wanna hold you, touch you,
feel you, be near you, i miss you baby baby baby..
i’m tired of try’na fake through, but there’s nothing I can do..
boy I can’t wait to hate you..

I can’t wait to hate you
make you, pain like i do..
still can’t shake you off..
I can’t wait to break through
these, emotional changes..
seems like such a lost ’cause
I can’t wait to face you,
break you, down so low
there’s no place left to go..
I can’t wait to hate you.. baby..

I can’t wait to hate you..

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What I Wanted To Do November 2, 2009

Today one of my friends asked if I’m happy. I was startled and paused for a long 10secs and reflected hard if I’m genuinely happy of if I’m just happy-happy. What came into my mind was, it was a very difficult question to answer especially if you know for a fact that you are just making half of the statement. God, I didn’t even know what will make me happy. I got a bit scared of the word. I wanted to do a lot of things so I could tell which one or what the hell’s gonna make me happy. The answer is, I don’t know! Really, I don’t know. They say that we should think first of our spirituality and belief before we could be happy physically as a person, faith they say.  Have faith in the Lord God Almighty. Then you should feel fully satisfied and genuinely happy. I don’t know, like I said before I was never a sunday person but I do have a strong faith in God. 

Then next is financial security. Admit it, money is a material thing that makes a person happy. I know how it feels because I am just a human bound to make mistakes (take note, mistakes) and longing to taste ultimate happiness. We all know that if we have something to cover up other worries like medicines for sickness, anything to pay the bills, then we might not think of any worries at all ending up feeling happy, right?

 

After feeling satisfied with little worries about monetary things, then here comes personal life. My personal life is divided into two. First, is my relationship with my family and second is my personal relationship with someone which affects me at the most as a person…hmnn, love life.

 

I would like to generally talk or give insights about how and what is love life is or being romantically involved. I should not be discussing this but anyway this is one best way to release emotions…frustrations, anger, contentment and best of all being happy. All I can share with you guys is my personal experience with everything that I felt during the ride. I wasnt all being on cloud nine. Some of the experiences are the plunging part of it.

 

They say that when you’re in love you forget all your problems and hang ups of the world. But sometimes to feel the happiness of being in love means that you have to face some problems too. You can’t fight love. I said it once before and I’ll say it again. “LOVE HAS NO BOUNDARIES, NO SPACE AND DISTANCE. IF IT COMES YOUR WAY THINK TWICE BEFORE YOU LET IT PASS.  IT MIGHT NOT COME BACK, ONLY FATE CAN TELL.” See it happened to me, he did come back but with baggages! Haha! This time I can make a joke out of it. It made me realize that I had my chance and I blew it. I can’t make any step to ruin his perfect life just to satisfy my own. That’s not me. I am a sacrifice person and I can forget about myself rather than hurting someone. I was the one who left him and this is my punishment and my suffering.